I was surfing the web last week and I ran across a page that was talking about dating rules for women. It mentioned such things as "Don't answer when he calls, let him leave a message" "If he's available Tuesday, you are available Thursday", "Keep him waiting, always show up late", "Make sure he knows how to buy to flowers"... ok that last one would be nice.. but not realistic.
I have never understood these games or tests that people play in relationships. If I am interested in someone and I want to talk to them, I am going to get in touch with them. I have talked to plenty of guys tell me that they are sick of these games, that playing these games actually can push him away rather than attract him, as these websites tell us. There is really only one thing to know, he is either interested in you or he is not. No amount of 'trickery' is going to get him to hang out with you. The truth of the matter is, he has already made up his mind if he wants to see you or not, there is nothing you can say or do to change that. Smile.. and move on. True, men have different levels of deepness.. Just like anyone, but like everyone else... either like you or they don't.
A little secret for both sexes...... neither one of us is hard to figure out in relationships.. if it ends.. who ever leaves, they are just not interested. Don't make us spell it out in an awkward conversation in your mom's driveway right before you want to take us out on a surprise vacation, if we don't like you.. we don't like you, anything more than that and we are just cushioning the blow.
"If he is available Tuesday, be available Thursday", please, even if the guy IS interested in you, you do this enough and he will give up... think "short attention span". He doesn't want someone who can't make time to see him. Sure independence is attractive, but like everyone else, he wants to me wanted, hence the song "I want you to want me".... If you are constantly saying no when you mean yes and Thursday when he says Tuesday... guess who you are going to be spending that Thursday with? Yourself. No person is going to wait around forever for you, no matter how awesome and deserving you are. If you want to see them.. then see them. This DOES NOT mean stalk them!! Make sure that both parties are being seen by each other, not just you watching them from their front lawn. Just a side note, I am not talking about changing your plans JUST so you can see him on Tuesday, keep your identity, but if you happen both happen to be free and available to hang out on the same day... then go for it!
"Keep them waiting, always show up late", really? I would think that this would just be seen as disrespectful and unreliable. Be punctual. It's that simple. Same with the "Don't answer when he calls... make him leave a message" , if you are free to answer his call... answer the damn phone.
/Rant
Happy Dating!
Sunday, October 9, 2011
Monday, August 29, 2011
How to date a Lady
OK fellas, I recently had my eyes opened on a date to what a good guy should be doing on a date when he is really trying to respect the woman he is with and treat her like a lady. This sparked my interest to write about it and jot down a few things that will definitely win you points with that certain lady you are trying to make swoon.
1. When asking her out on the 1st date coffee shops are always nice. They say “Chill, without the need to get her drunk and easy”. Inviting someone out for drinks will only lead in one direction, too much physical contact too early, innuendos about sex, which WILL be fun in the moment, but are not the way to speak to a lady you just met and she will not see you as anything more that a guy who wants sex. It takes a lot of effort to get past that mindset once it is planted in our heads. There’s a reason people say to be friends first and then date, because friends aren’t just out looking for sex from you, they actually want to know about you and care about you when you are hurt.
2. When planning the date you might want to combine something the girl has mentioned earlier about things she is interested in. If she has mentioned that she LOVES old movies and you heard that there is a showing of a Hitchcock movie playing in town, HIT THAT UP! If she says she loves art and artsy things… look into art museums. Playing on her interests definitely makes her feel like you are listening to what she has to say and that you see her as an important worthwhile person.
3. CALL HER! Don’t text her, take the time and effort to call her and ask her on the date. While seeming to be not a big deal, that chivalry shit goes a LONG way. Us ladies don’t always get calls from guys anymore... we are left to wait by our phones for that TEXT… when did we get to that point?
4. Staying with this chivalry tune, on the date, be a gentleman. By this I mean; open doors, walk her to her car, PAY for her. I have talked to a lot of guys who think that paying for a lady is too much now. That there is no reason to pay for her if she doesn’t even care and is just using you. A little secret to you guys, if you don’t treat us like we are worthwhile then we will JUST see you as a free meal for the night. Besides, a good rule of thumb is not to ask out a lady if you can’t afford to pay her way as well. Unfortunately I have had several guys feel the way that I mentioned above and I have just started bringing enough money on the date for myself in case the guy chooses to go ‘dutch’. After the 1st date that includes a meal you can start talking about paying your own way. But that 1st initial impression it critical for a lady. It’s always refreshing to have that door opened for us or being walked to our car, knowing that it is out of your way just to make sure we are safe getting there.
5. And finally, dress nice when you do meet up. I’m not talking about suiting up, unless it IS a fancy place you are taking her. But if it is a casual date, at least comb your hair, put on clean clothes that fit and make you look put together. No one wants to show up to a 1st date only to see the guy wearing shorts and a shirt that looks like he just got done eating BBQ. If it’s a night date, go with a button up shirt and jeans and dear God no flip flops. If you plan to treat her like she is a worthwhile person at least look like you too are a worthwhile person for her to give a damn about.
You may notice a trend in these topics, the word “worthwhile”. This is key, neither us ladies or you guys want to feel like we are just a conquest for the night… and if you fellas do… then you are not looking for a lady.
So good luck and happy dating!
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Pick-up Lines and Why They Work ... Or Don't
"I know they say that milk does the body good, but DAMN baby, how much have you been drinking??"
"Excuse me, does this napkin smell like chloroform?"
Pick-up lines have been around forever, and there's a reason, guys sometimes need help approaching a lady. And yes I say it's for guys, because the only pick-up line a woman needs to get a guy attention usually is "Hi".
Now, there are good pick-up lines and bad ones.. ones that will get you a smile and ones that will get you a slap or a roll of the eyes followed by a cold shoulder, let's look at the bad ones first... mainly because they are more fun.
It's true, women are attracted to humor, but throwing out a sexual innuendo into your pick-up line is a bad move. Don't walk up to a lady and say something like,"Is it hot in here or is it just you?", "That shirt is pretty becoming on you, of course if I were a shirt I would be to", "Mind if I fall madly in bed with you?" or "Are your pants made out of mirrors? cause I can see myself in them". You might as well say, "Nice shoes, wanna f***?" or "How drunk are you?". At least you would be straight to the point. Women don't like to be seen as pieces of meat, a little wooing can go a long way and telling her that you lost your teddy bear and want to sleep with her is not going to do the trick. But humor will go a long way. But remember, if you are not funny.. do not attempt them.. the awkwardness will only magnify when you have to repeatedly tell her "get it?"
Always be original with your lines as well. No one wants hear one that sounds like you use it on everyone, like, "Was that an earthquake or did you just rock my world", "You eyes are the same color as my Porche" or "I may not be a genie but I can make all your dreams come true". Also don't over exaggerate if you are going to compliment, "How does it feel being the most beautiful woman in the room?", as pretty as we may feel at that moment, women always think that there is someone prettier.
The ones that work at the ones that are going to be original or sincere. Complimenting a girl on her shoes or personality or interests is bound to get you more of a chance than insinuating sex. Offer to buy her a drink or a place to sit. Just make sure that you are aware of her body language, if she is smiling at you, flipping her hair, and turning her body towards you, you are golden. On the flip side, if she is turning her back to you and trying to strike up conversations with someone else... graciously back down and find another victim.. I mean lady.
What are your favorite/ worst/ best/ funniest pick-up lines?
Here's a little song to go with this entry:
Garfunkel and Oats: One Night Stand
"Excuse me, does this napkin smell like chloroform?"
Pick-up lines have been around forever, and there's a reason, guys sometimes need help approaching a lady. And yes I say it's for guys, because the only pick-up line a woman needs to get a guy attention usually is "Hi".
Now, there are good pick-up lines and bad ones.. ones that will get you a smile and ones that will get you a slap or a roll of the eyes followed by a cold shoulder, let's look at the bad ones first... mainly because they are more fun.
It's true, women are attracted to humor, but throwing out a sexual innuendo into your pick-up line is a bad move. Don't walk up to a lady and say something like,"Is it hot in here or is it just you?", "That shirt is pretty becoming on you, of course if I were a shirt I would be to", "Mind if I fall madly in bed with you?" or "Are your pants made out of mirrors? cause I can see myself in them". You might as well say, "Nice shoes, wanna f***?" or "How drunk are you?". At least you would be straight to the point. Women don't like to be seen as pieces of meat, a little wooing can go a long way and telling her that you lost your teddy bear and want to sleep with her is not going to do the trick. But humor will go a long way. But remember, if you are not funny.. do not attempt them.. the awkwardness will only magnify when you have to repeatedly tell her "get it?"
Always be original with your lines as well. No one wants hear one that sounds like you use it on everyone, like, "Was that an earthquake or did you just rock my world", "You eyes are the same color as my Porche" or "I may not be a genie but I can make all your dreams come true". Also don't over exaggerate if you are going to compliment, "How does it feel being the most beautiful woman in the room?", as pretty as we may feel at that moment, women always think that there is someone prettier.
The ones that work at the ones that are going to be original or sincere. Complimenting a girl on her shoes or personality or interests is bound to get you more of a chance than insinuating sex. Offer to buy her a drink or a place to sit. Just make sure that you are aware of her body language, if she is smiling at you, flipping her hair, and turning her body towards you, you are golden. On the flip side, if she is turning her back to you and trying to strike up conversations with someone else... graciously back down and find another victim.. I mean lady.
What are your favorite/ worst/ best/ funniest pick-up lines?
Here's a little song to go with this entry:
Garfunkel and Oats: One Night Stand
Monday, May 30, 2011
Why Good Girls Go For Bad Boys; Secrets Revealed
This has got to be the most common topic that I have heard guys complain about since I entered the dating scene; "I don't get it?? why does she like him? He treats her like shit!", "I would never dream of treating her that way, yet she wants nothing to do with me! Why?" Girls always go for the douchebags, from now on I am going to be a dick to them and THEN they will like me". I have fought this and defended girls a lot, saying that it is because the bad guys have confidence.. they take the chances.. say the lines that morally good guys don't.. they have been in the game long enough and they know the things to say and do that can manipulate girls' feelings. This all may be true, but I heard something on the radio last week that made me think about things in a slightly different light.
The host had a caller who was hurt because the girl that he was with, he treated her like a princess, would bend over backwards to make her happy, and yet she kept pulling away and was trying to run and was clueless as to why. The host told him the following, that the way they girl was acting is a sign of a girl that has been in abusive relationships in the past, either emotionally or physically. That girls who have been hurt in relationships, be it in their youth or in dating sometimes get in a slump where they start thinking that kind of relationship is the norm for them. In order to get out of that mindset it takes a lot of digging deep in their feelings and seeing why they feel that way and to finally see that they deserve more than to be emotionally spit on. Some women get out of that mindset and overcome it while others don't know how to. And for girls who are continuously in relationships with those "douchebags", start to get used to it so much, so that whenever a "nice guy" comes along and tries to sweep her off feet and wine and dine her and treat her like a princess she is literally out of her comfort zone and it makes her skin crawl in fact. And the more nice the guy tries to be the more scared she is and more she pulls away. She knows that she wants that good guy to be her prince charming, but she is just not used to it.
I don't have any great advice to the men out there who are good guys, you know who you are, except be patient with us. There is a good chance that we will get over the curse of the douchebaggery and when we do you will be winning the heart of an amazing woman. And as the saying goes... the nice guy WILL finish last.
And ladies... for you, as awkward as it may feel, and out of place for a guy to treat you like a princess.. try not to think that he has ulterior motives. Don't be afraid to lose your feet in a relationship, this one might be the one that's worth it... if not.. there are TONS more fish in the sea!
Happy dating!
The host had a caller who was hurt because the girl that he was with, he treated her like a princess, would bend over backwards to make her happy, and yet she kept pulling away and was trying to run and was clueless as to why. The host told him the following, that the way they girl was acting is a sign of a girl that has been in abusive relationships in the past, either emotionally or physically. That girls who have been hurt in relationships, be it in their youth or in dating sometimes get in a slump where they start thinking that kind of relationship is the norm for them. In order to get out of that mindset it takes a lot of digging deep in their feelings and seeing why they feel that way and to finally see that they deserve more than to be emotionally spit on. Some women get out of that mindset and overcome it while others don't know how to. And for girls who are continuously in relationships with those "douchebags", start to get used to it so much, so that whenever a "nice guy" comes along and tries to sweep her off feet and wine and dine her and treat her like a princess she is literally out of her comfort zone and it makes her skin crawl in fact. And the more nice the guy tries to be the more scared she is and more she pulls away. She knows that she wants that good guy to be her prince charming, but she is just not used to it.
I don't have any great advice to the men out there who are good guys, you know who you are, except be patient with us. There is a good chance that we will get over the curse of the douchebaggery and when we do you will be winning the heart of an amazing woman. And as the saying goes... the nice guy WILL finish last.
And ladies... for you, as awkward as it may feel, and out of place for a guy to treat you like a princess.. try not to think that he has ulterior motives. Don't be afraid to lose your feet in a relationship, this one might be the one that's worth it... if not.. there are TONS more fish in the sea!
Happy dating!
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Dating a Friend
Initiating a romantic relationship with a close friend is a very slippery slope. It can go 1 of 3 ways; 1: It works out.. you two fall madly in love and it is the best relationship of your life, 2: You date... and later find out that you were better as friends and are content that you at least explored the notion and grow from this experience and become better chums, or 3: You date, become close on a whole 'nother level and realize that you or both find the other completely repulsive and end up hating each other and ruin what was a good friendship.
I, myself, have never dated someone who was a close friend first, not that I never tossed the idea around in my head here and there, but never acted on it. It is a scary thing. There is much more at stake than just some random Shmo that you meet online/ at the bar/ picking out apples at the store. With this one there is a friendship, and then mutual friends. It's like jumping in at the 6 date. You MAY have the small talk at 1st just to get over the initial awkwardness, but you already know each other and buttons to push and nitty gritty secrets that usually take months for new fresh relationships to pry out of your chest of confidentiality. This is not a decision to enter into lightly.. not one that can be tricked into by getting the other one drunk making out and then sinking your hooks into them like you have done with the past ones. There is one key that will make or break this one, and that is communication.
Sure communication is great and super important in any relationship, but you have to be on your A-game in the communication ring for this round. Also, don't forget to put a lot of thought into this. Don't decide to make the moves on your dream-boat confidant just because he/she is ooooh so cute, Weigh the pros and cons, is the friendship you have with this person too important to lose? will they think you are creepy for even THINKING about this possibility? Are these feelings even true? You definitely don't want to jump into this just because you are lonely and notice that this friend totally gets you but in their eyes... they get you like a sister/brother and by making the move ... now a distant cousin/ creeper.
So you say you have thought about this.. wrote down the pros and cons on getting to know this sexy piece of friend goodness and you see that this is what you want.. and you believe they are worth the risk, it's time to make your move tiger. And like a tiger you must move. Circle your prey, test the waters, throw out a hang out location where you would have a chance to talk, where the touch barrier can be broken. But be patient, like a mouse... or whatever it is that tigers prey on.. they can get spooked. You know what this person likes to talk about, and every once in a while hold a glance for a second longer, laugh and an unfunny joke, touch an arm/back/ knee (nothing TOO personal) and let it linger for a second longer. After testing these few moves you will start to see if there is an reciprocation in the feelings department. If they respond or mimic your moves you are in like Flin, if they pull back and start talking about this other person they are dating then you pull back. They are not feeling it and are trying to tell you nicely to slow your role.
And just remember, in the end, this is going to take both of you to want this, to want to risk a friendship that you have built over some time. Many great loves have started out this way but at the same time.... so have some horror stories. Good luck and happy dating
I, myself, have never dated someone who was a close friend first, not that I never tossed the idea around in my head here and there, but never acted on it. It is a scary thing. There is much more at stake than just some random Shmo that you meet online/ at the bar/ picking out apples at the store. With this one there is a friendship, and then mutual friends. It's like jumping in at the 6 date. You MAY have the small talk at 1st just to get over the initial awkwardness, but you already know each other and buttons to push and nitty gritty secrets that usually take months for new fresh relationships to pry out of your chest of confidentiality. This is not a decision to enter into lightly.. not one that can be tricked into by getting the other one drunk making out and then sinking your hooks into them like you have done with the past ones. There is one key that will make or break this one, and that is communication.
Sure communication is great and super important in any relationship, but you have to be on your A-game in the communication ring for this round. Also, don't forget to put a lot of thought into this. Don't decide to make the moves on your dream-boat confidant just because he/she is ooooh so cute, Weigh the pros and cons, is the friendship you have with this person too important to lose? will they think you are creepy for even THINKING about this possibility? Are these feelings even true? You definitely don't want to jump into this just because you are lonely and notice that this friend totally gets you but in their eyes... they get you like a sister/brother and by making the move ... now a distant cousin/ creeper.
So you say you have thought about this.. wrote down the pros and cons on getting to know this sexy piece of friend goodness and you see that this is what you want.. and you believe they are worth the risk, it's time to make your move tiger. And like a tiger you must move. Circle your prey, test the waters, throw out a hang out location where you would have a chance to talk, where the touch barrier can be broken. But be patient, like a mouse... or whatever it is that tigers prey on.. they can get spooked. You know what this person likes to talk about, and every once in a while hold a glance for a second longer, laugh and an unfunny joke, touch an arm/back/ knee (nothing TOO personal) and let it linger for a second longer. After testing these few moves you will start to see if there is an reciprocation in the feelings department. If they respond or mimic your moves you are in like Flin, if they pull back and start talking about this other person they are dating then you pull back. They are not feeling it and are trying to tell you nicely to slow your role.
And just remember, in the end, this is going to take both of you to want this, to want to risk a friendship that you have built over some time. Many great loves have started out this way but at the same time.... so have some horror stories. Good luck and happy dating
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Chatting before Meeting
Before you meet your online lover you must 1st talk to them. This is to gather more information so as to know if they are a good match or someone you should stand up. This will consist of a few emails back and forth.. maybe an exchange of digits to text here and there.. so that they can all lead up to meeting up in the future and seeing if there are sparks.
But there are topics that you might want to steer clear of to avoid miscommunication.
A little harmless messaging is perfectly acceptable, but be careful, some people WILL try to push the line so as to see if this meeting is going to end with an awkward hug or a happy ending.
And as always.. if you are looking for a "happy ending" with this random online junkie.. go for it.. but you never know what kind of diseases these people are caring, so tread lightly.
But to avoid the potential playmate here are some Do's and Don't when 1st chatting it up.
DO Tell them you dig their pics
DON'T tell them you are wondering what is under that sweatshirt they are wearing.
DO mention how long you have been single
DON'T mention how long it has been since you got laid
DO make plans to meet up
DON'T make plans to meet up at 3am
DO tell some jokes to show off your awesome witty side
DON'T tell the one that ends "knock knock, who's there? naked, naked who? Why don't you come over and let's get naked"
DO tell them you like their smile
DON'T tell them you want to see that mouth all kinds of up close and personal
Often times it is easy to get carried away when talking to someone online. The inhibitions are lowered, it becomes kind of like a game... it's much like being drunk... taking someone home... and then having that awkward moment the next morning regretting everything you said and did the night before. Not that I know anything about that.
Just keep your wits about you. Don't say anything to these people that you have not met that you would not say to a stranger in a dark alley where there is no one around to hear you. At LEAST until you meet them in person.
Happy Dating!
But there are topics that you might want to steer clear of to avoid miscommunication.
A little harmless messaging is perfectly acceptable, but be careful, some people WILL try to push the line so as to see if this meeting is going to end with an awkward hug or a happy ending.
And as always.. if you are looking for a "happy ending" with this random online junkie.. go for it.. but you never know what kind of diseases these people are caring, so tread lightly.
But to avoid the potential playmate here are some Do's and Don't when 1st chatting it up.
DO Tell them you dig their pics
DON'T tell them you are wondering what is under that sweatshirt they are wearing.
DO mention how long you have been single
DON'T mention how long it has been since you got laid
DO make plans to meet up
DON'T make plans to meet up at 3am
DO tell some jokes to show off your awesome witty side
DON'T tell the one that ends "knock knock, who's there? naked, naked who? Why don't you come over and let's get naked"
DO tell them you like their smile
DON'T tell them you want to see that mouth all kinds of up close and personal
Often times it is easy to get carried away when talking to someone online. The inhibitions are lowered, it becomes kind of like a game... it's much like being drunk... taking someone home... and then having that awkward moment the next morning regretting everything you said and did the night before. Not that I know anything about that.
Just keep your wits about you. Don't say anything to these people that you have not met that you would not say to a stranger in a dark alley where there is no one around to hear you. At LEAST until you meet them in person.
Happy Dating!
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Deciphering Online Profiles
In online dating sites people are naturally going to put their best foot forward to woo their potential mate. It's much like someone writing an add for a house and using a nice way of saying it's a piece of crap. Like when someone says "The house has a lived in feel", this of course means that it is run down and will need a lot of help. When the add says "In a very friendly neighborhood", this means, you have no lawn and your neighbor's house is VERY close to you, practically on top of you. So it only makes sense for people to do the same advertising for themselves online. But THANKFULLY you have me here to help you weed out and decipher what the profiles are REALLY saying.
Before you start looking you must first think about the kind of person you are wanting to find. You are either going on this site to find a quick hook up, just friends, or a relationship. Once you know what you are after you can begin reading the profiles.
Let's start with the obvious ones first, if you are looking for someone to just hook up with, no real strings attached, you are going to want to look for people who have a line similar to this on their page, "Not looking for anything serious". That is always a big give away. They are not looking for anything serious, and believe this. If you see this page and you think "that is a good looking person, I would love to get into a relationship with that one", if they say "nothing serious"... they mean it. They are not at the point to jump into a relationship. So it is best to go into this one not expecting anything. As long as the boundaries are set.. this will work out for both of you! That is until one of you finds someone you want to date, then you must split ways, because honestly, no real relationships can blossom from a booty call.
"Not looking for any drama, no mind games" This phrase means that they just got out of a relationship where someone did JUST this to them. Tread lightly with this one, if at all. There is a chance that you will be walking on egg shells until there is a trust. They may just not be ready for a relationship at this time and are jumping into the dating scene too early. Either way.. keep your wits about you.
At the same time, be careful when someone is too wistful. For example, if they talk about "loving to cuddle, wanting to find that one magical person to complete their lives"... they may also not be ready to get into a relationship. It is not ok for someone to go into a relationship thinking that they need that other person to 'complete' them. This usually comes from someone who is insecure and will try to move really fast and will eventually smother you so that one day when they want to take you to Enchanted Rock you break down and tell them that you can't do this anymore, that you got too freaked out when they tried to tell you that they loved you after you bought them a burger.. as an example
Now if you are looking for someone to start a relationship with, and you are venturing into the online world to find that someone there are phrases that you should look for. Look for someone who says, "let's see where things go, just get to know each other". These are the stable people who are ready for a relationship. Not saying that it will work out. But you have the best chance with these people. But just a fair warning... This group is few and far between.
The majority of people on the online sites are going to fall into the first 2 categories. You are going to have to weed through a lot... and I mean A LOT of bad seeds before you find a decent candidate.. if that is in fact what you are looking for.
Happy dating!
Before you start looking you must first think about the kind of person you are wanting to find. You are either going on this site to find a quick hook up, just friends, or a relationship. Once you know what you are after you can begin reading the profiles.
Let's start with the obvious ones first, if you are looking for someone to just hook up with, no real strings attached, you are going to want to look for people who have a line similar to this on their page, "Not looking for anything serious". That is always a big give away. They are not looking for anything serious, and believe this. If you see this page and you think "that is a good looking person, I would love to get into a relationship with that one", if they say "nothing serious"... they mean it. They are not at the point to jump into a relationship. So it is best to go into this one not expecting anything. As long as the boundaries are set.. this will work out for both of you! That is until one of you finds someone you want to date, then you must split ways, because honestly, no real relationships can blossom from a booty call.
"Not looking for any drama, no mind games" This phrase means that they just got out of a relationship where someone did JUST this to them. Tread lightly with this one, if at all. There is a chance that you will be walking on egg shells until there is a trust. They may just not be ready for a relationship at this time and are jumping into the dating scene too early. Either way.. keep your wits about you.
At the same time, be careful when someone is too wistful. For example, if they talk about "loving to cuddle, wanting to find that one magical person to complete their lives"... they may also not be ready to get into a relationship. It is not ok for someone to go into a relationship thinking that they need that other person to 'complete' them. This usually comes from someone who is insecure and will try to move really fast and will eventually smother you so that one day when they want to take you to Enchanted Rock you break down and tell them that you can't do this anymore, that you got too freaked out when they tried to tell you that they loved you after you bought them a burger.. as an example
Now if you are looking for someone to start a relationship with, and you are venturing into the online world to find that someone there are phrases that you should look for. Look for someone who says, "let's see where things go, just get to know each other". These are the stable people who are ready for a relationship. Not saying that it will work out. But you have the best chance with these people. But just a fair warning... This group is few and far between.
The majority of people on the online sites are going to fall into the first 2 categories. You are going to have to weed through a lot... and I mean A LOT of bad seeds before you find a decent candidate.. if that is in fact what you are looking for.
Happy dating!
Thursday, February 24, 2011
The Escape Route: How to get out of a date gone bad!
Let's face it, not every date will have fireworks flying and conversation flowing. Sometimes they may plain well suck. Most of the below par dates you can last through until they are over and there is that awkward goodbye, knowing damn well you won't be hearing from him, nor he from you, but at least you got a free meal out of the deal. The dates that produce the most weird ones are the blind or online dates. You don't really know what to expect and you have to really plan for anything
But there ARE those few dates that go horribly wrong and I mean... TERRIBLE, and an escape route will definitely be coming in handy. Here are a few examples.
The Creeper:
I'm sure he has EVERY intention of wooing the pants off of you. He even picked up a flower for you. But he just is a tiny bit.. oh what's the word... ANTI-SOCIAL! His 1st mistake was that as you walked in he bowed to you. And you might be thinking... is he Asian?? Well that might be acceptable if he was, but no, it was more of a ... "after you mah lady" type of bow. I don't care who you are.. that is creepy. But he took you to a really nice place, maybe the bow can be over looked. Then he starts talking.. and talking ... and a little more talking about his video games... and movies and books.. and it becomes very evident that this nice young man does not leave his house much and you realize that you need to get out!
Now with the creeper, breaking it off in the middle of the date can be deadly. This will provoke a lot of questions, "is it something I did? I was just about to ask you if you wanted to meet my mom!" In these cases it is best to eat your food, let him pay the bill, and tell him you had a great night and will talk to him later. Just make sure if you have his number in your phone, don't delete it. You will need to know when he is calling so as to not answer his creepy calls.
Handsy MaGee:
This is the guy that will make you SO very thankful that you told you friends where you were going and who you are with. There is a good chance that this guy will only ask you out on a date where you are meeting for drinks. Yes he has an ulterior motive. Don't be fooled. This one will use the excuse that the one light beer that he bought for you means that you are now open to his advances. With in minutes of meeting you he will be trying to break the touch barrier. It may be something as small as a hand on your back or shoulder or something as OVER the line as a hand on the leg. Either way, if you are just meeting someone for the 1st time, touching with in the 1st few minutes can be a little daunting. With these guys you will need to be forceful. A mild, "oh I forgot, I need to get up early in the morning so I better go" will lead him to ask if he can join you. Really, anything short of, "sorry, but this is just not going to work out" will be leading this guy on. So be straightforward with this gropey groperson and get the heck out of there.
Mr. Invisible:
This one is the reason that you must bring money with you on a date. This is where the guy is a no show, and you are left there waiting on him. You wait about 10... MAYBE 15 minutes and then you go ahead and order your meal. You have just been taken out on a date by the most awesome person there is, yourself. Be glad that the guy didn't show up. He was probably an axe murderer who was with another date/ victim. Now you can enjoy your night out with yourself!
Bob the Bigot:
If you are in the same boat and are against anyone who is not like you.. then this guy is for you. But if you respect people and think they are equal and this Bob is putting down everyone down who is not like him, over the line slander after over the line slander, trust me on this one, don't even laugh politely at his jokes, get out. It will only get worse as time goes on.
I would say to have your friend call you and pretend to be the police saying that there was a break in at your house and everything was stolen and there is a dead body in there and you have to leave right away.. but this is played out. I have actually had a date call me on a phone call when it came in that was from my aunt telling me "Emergency! Emergency!! This is your emergency call to get out of your date!" He told me "you know this one time, I had a date that got a call and told me that she had to go because her brother was in a car wreck, but I later found out that she had a friend call her so she could leave... who was on the phone" Shit.. So I suffered through the rest of that date. Don't use the call rescue method!
Most dates will be ok.. if nothing else it's a free meal. But for those that you can't handle. Use any of the above methods to get out of their quick!
Happy dating!
But there ARE those few dates that go horribly wrong and I mean... TERRIBLE, and an escape route will definitely be coming in handy. Here are a few examples.
The Creeper:
I'm sure he has EVERY intention of wooing the pants off of you. He even picked up a flower for you. But he just is a tiny bit.. oh what's the word... ANTI-SOCIAL! His 1st mistake was that as you walked in he bowed to you. And you might be thinking... is he Asian?? Well that might be acceptable if he was, but no, it was more of a ... "after you mah lady" type of bow. I don't care who you are.. that is creepy. But he took you to a really nice place, maybe the bow can be over looked. Then he starts talking.. and talking ... and a little more talking about his video games... and movies and books.. and it becomes very evident that this nice young man does not leave his house much and you realize that you need to get out!
Now with the creeper, breaking it off in the middle of the date can be deadly. This will provoke a lot of questions, "is it something I did? I was just about to ask you if you wanted to meet my mom!" In these cases it is best to eat your food, let him pay the bill, and tell him you had a great night and will talk to him later. Just make sure if you have his number in your phone, don't delete it. You will need to know when he is calling so as to not answer his creepy calls.
Handsy MaGee:
This is the guy that will make you SO very thankful that you told you friends where you were going and who you are with. There is a good chance that this guy will only ask you out on a date where you are meeting for drinks. Yes he has an ulterior motive. Don't be fooled. This one will use the excuse that the one light beer that he bought for you means that you are now open to his advances. With in minutes of meeting you he will be trying to break the touch barrier. It may be something as small as a hand on your back or shoulder or something as OVER the line as a hand on the leg. Either way, if you are just meeting someone for the 1st time, touching with in the 1st few minutes can be a little daunting. With these guys you will need to be forceful. A mild, "oh I forgot, I need to get up early in the morning so I better go" will lead him to ask if he can join you. Really, anything short of, "sorry, but this is just not going to work out" will be leading this guy on. So be straightforward with this gropey groperson and get the heck out of there.
Mr. Invisible:
This one is the reason that you must bring money with you on a date. This is where the guy is a no show, and you are left there waiting on him. You wait about 10... MAYBE 15 minutes and then you go ahead and order your meal. You have just been taken out on a date by the most awesome person there is, yourself. Be glad that the guy didn't show up. He was probably an axe murderer who was with another date/ victim. Now you can enjoy your night out with yourself!
Bob the Bigot:
If you are in the same boat and are against anyone who is not like you.. then this guy is for you. But if you respect people and think they are equal and this Bob is putting down everyone down who is not like him, over the line slander after over the line slander, trust me on this one, don't even laugh politely at his jokes, get out. It will only get worse as time goes on.
I would say to have your friend call you and pretend to be the police saying that there was a break in at your house and everything was stolen and there is a dead body in there and you have to leave right away.. but this is played out. I have actually had a date call me on a phone call when it came in that was from my aunt telling me "Emergency! Emergency!! This is your emergency call to get out of your date!" He told me "you know this one time, I had a date that got a call and told me that she had to go because her brother was in a car wreck, but I later found out that she had a friend call her so she could leave... who was on the phone" Shit.. So I suffered through the rest of that date. Don't use the call rescue method!
Most dates will be ok.. if nothing else it's a free meal. But for those that you can't handle. Use any of the above methods to get out of their quick!
Happy dating!
Monday, February 21, 2011
Red Flags in New Relationships!
Red flags are critical to look out for in a new relationship. These are those little things that you might say ... "ooooh he is just having a bad day.. or that attitude won't last" He's not and it will. Here are a few of the big ones that I have learned from personal experience.
- If he doesn't want you to come over to his apartment: This is a HUGE red flag. There is a reason that he is not inviting you over. It could be something as innocent as he is just really messy or as serious as.. he is married. Either way, if someone is into you they will ask you to come over at some point in the early stages of the relationship.
- If you never meet his friends: This goes hand in hand with not going to his place. He is hiding something. Either a wife and kid from you or you from them.
- If he's too busy: Note, a guy, if he is into you, he will never be too busy. One day or 2 days maybe. but if he is still making excuses after 3, this is a huge red flag. The only reason a guy would go so long not wanting to see you would be because he is a CEO of a VERY important company and is working on a huge merger.. and even then... he will make time to see you.
- Talks bad about his mom: Everyone can get annoyed with their mom from time to time. But if he does nothing but talks about how mean she is, how fat she is, how he wouldn't even invite her to his wedding... Red flag!
- No pictures on his wall: This is a subtle one, but it screams fear of attachment. It says he can't commit to one thing, always changing his mind. I mean, come on! Not even one picture? One of mom? yourself?? your dead cat Fluffy??
- If everything is too perfect: then there is something wrong. No body is perfect, no two personalities will mesh with everything. Arguing means growing. You learn what the other person likes, what steps on their toes, when NOT to bring up the fact that there was a really hot guy who bought you a beer the other night. You need to learn the in's and out's of a relationship and arguing here and there is a healthy way of doing it. Plus the making up is so much fun too!
- If he insists that you check in but the reverse does not apply: "You are going out tonight? with who? Thanks for asking if I wanted to come along, I really wish you would tell me what you are doing before hand" and then on the flip side "Oh tonight... I think I might just hang out with some friends, talk to you later". He has to know your every move, but knowing his... well you should just know better. He is a grown man, he shouldn't have to check in with you, but you try and do something without him? fuggedaboutit. RED FLAG. You should be free to do whatever you want whenever you want. And no amount of MASSIVE OVERLOAD text messages should stop you. If he is constantly calling/ texting you to see where you are and who you are with and then flips out when a response doesn't come in his time frame, he is a very insecure person who needs that validation. You don't.
- If he criticizes your wardrobe: Getting advice from your loved one is great, wanting to know that you like what we are wearing is always a plus and sometimes we need that push of encouragement. But when you get comments such as "I really don't like my women dressing like whores" or "you just don't have any style", OH you HAVE a style, it is just not his... RUN!
- If he criticizes your friends: Granted you may not like all of his friends, if he lets you meet them, so it is fair to say that he may not like all of your friends. But it is a major red flag when, after meeting them, he tells you to your face "I can't stand your best friend, she is a total bitch" NOT acceptable. It falls in the old saying, "I can say whatever I want to say about my friends, but if you put them down.. I will knife your kidneys". Unless he is ok with you putting his friends down left and right and refusing to hang out with them and then insisting he shouldn't hang out with them either, then he shouldn't voice such strong opinions. Your friends are part of your life, you love them. If he can't get along with them then there is a good chance you will be butting heads later when he won't let you hang out with your friends and then all you are left with him. The Beatles didn't write a song about needing a little help from your friends for nothing.
- They refuse labels: There is nothing wrong with making an informed decision about someone, making sure that they are good enough to be called your girlfriend/boyfriend. But sooner or later you are going to need to shit or get off the pot... so to speak. "Dating for a few weeks.. even a month, is perfectly acceptable, but when you reach that 2 month mark something needs to be done. Either that relationships is moving forward or it is getting the plug pulled on it. Someone not willing to commit to a relationship has too many issues that they need to work through before they take that step. If they are having a hard time committing to a person that they are showing a strong liking for, how can you expect them to commit to larger things like... what to eat for dinner??
Monday, February 14, 2011
1st Date: Dos and Don'ts
Going on a 1st date can always be a little nerve racking. Your mind is plagued with tons of ideas that will make you want to turn around and run right back home in bed, like, "What if he thinks I am ugly? What if I think he is ugly? What if I have nothing to say? What if he is totally boring? When the dates over is he going to go in for a kiss or hug? Did I brush my teeth? Is my deoderant working? How do I get out of this if he is a total creeper?!?"
Well just breathe! And remember... 1st dates are a lot like approaching a wild animal... there is a good chance that they are just as scared of you as you are of them.
Just keep in mind, that the other person has already said yes to you, so all you need to do is have a good time, relax... not TOO much, but if you show that you are relaxed then the other person will relax and you can bypass the awkward questions like "Soooo... nice weather today.. huh?" No one likes those, and no one really cares if YOU think it is nice weather, it's just the next best alternative to sitting in silence with this person that you dont know.
When choosing where to have this date, people will say "Don't go for food, just stick to coffee or drinks, you have an easy out!" But I tell you, go for the meal. (and this part is aimed mainly towards the ladies) If nothing else.. you will be getting a free meal! Eating during a date also gives you something to do other than stare off into the distance and wonder why this guy is REALLY talking about comic books on a date.
Outfits! What to wear what to wear? 1st off, guys, don't go sloppy. Please no wife beaters or shirts with stains on them. I know the whole "I don't care" attitude can be cool... but out of respect... dress up some for the girls you are trying to impress and have them take you seriously. Girls same for you, you want to look cute but not TOO cute. Basically, they aren't going to want to buy the farm if they can get the milk for free. DO choose an outfit that will inhance your favorite body part.. whether that be a tight pair of jeans, non hooker skirt, mild low cut top.. whatevs. We are all visual people, we want to see someone who is viually stimulating in all the good ways.
Arriving: On 1st dates it is usually a good idea to meet the date in a public setting, especially if this is the 1st time you are going to be meeting this person. Think about it, if it doesn't work out and you realize quickly that this person is a total creeper, do you REALLY want them to know where you live?? My point exactly.
Conversation, now this one can get a little tricky. Ladies, not to put down guys on this one, but there is a good chance they aren't going to retain that much information that you tell them about yourself. They are going to walk away saying either "that chick is cool" or "next". There are little things that you can pop into your conversation that will get the guys attention, keep him interested. It's the same concept as showing a baby a mirror image of themselves. Throw out names of generic things that most guys like. For example, when talking about movies try to throw out something like Shawshank Redemption, Field of Dreams.. instead of The Notebook or Grease. If this date flourishes into a relationship or even just to a second date, the guy won't remember what was said that 1st date, only that he had something in common with you. Major note: 1st dates are no place for talking about super deep stuff! ever! No mentioning past relationships, no religion, and definately.. and repeat definately no talking about your jail record! Do you WANT to scare your date off?? Just leave it causal.. breezy.. and laid back please.
Escape routes. There is a good chance that you won't ever have to use it, but be prepared just in case, especially you ladies. They can be as small as writing down who you are meeting and where at what time to having your aunt call you screaming into the phone "EMERGENCY EMERGENCY!! ESCAPE NOW!" (make sure the volume is down on your phone should you choose that one, trust me). I always opt for the, "tell someone where you are going and with who". That way they know where you are and about how long it should take and if you are any longer.. they will be concerned.
Paying, this really should not have to be said, the guy should pay for the 1st date, at the very least. EVEN if he has to pay in coupons(true story). To ensure that this happens you can do one of 2 things, excuse yourself to poweder your nose before the check comes or be busy when it does arrive. If the check sits there and it becomes obvious that he is expecting this ticket to go Dutch.. pull out your money and pay for your half and get out of there fast.
Did I miss anything? Anything you wished I would talk about? Drop me a message and I will see what I can do!
Happy Valentines Day and happy dating!
Well just breathe! And remember... 1st dates are a lot like approaching a wild animal... there is a good chance that they are just as scared of you as you are of them.
Just keep in mind, that the other person has already said yes to you, so all you need to do is have a good time, relax... not TOO much, but if you show that you are relaxed then the other person will relax and you can bypass the awkward questions like "Soooo... nice weather today.. huh?" No one likes those, and no one really cares if YOU think it is nice weather, it's just the next best alternative to sitting in silence with this person that you dont know.
When choosing where to have this date, people will say "Don't go for food, just stick to coffee or drinks, you have an easy out!" But I tell you, go for the meal. (and this part is aimed mainly towards the ladies) If nothing else.. you will be getting a free meal! Eating during a date also gives you something to do other than stare off into the distance and wonder why this guy is REALLY talking about comic books on a date.
Outfits! What to wear what to wear? 1st off, guys, don't go sloppy. Please no wife beaters or shirts with stains on them. I know the whole "I don't care" attitude can be cool... but out of respect... dress up some for the girls you are trying to impress and have them take you seriously. Girls same for you, you want to look cute but not TOO cute. Basically, they aren't going to want to buy the farm if they can get the milk for free. DO choose an outfit that will inhance your favorite body part.. whether that be a tight pair of jeans, non hooker skirt, mild low cut top.. whatevs. We are all visual people, we want to see someone who is viually stimulating in all the good ways.
Arriving: On 1st dates it is usually a good idea to meet the date in a public setting, especially if this is the 1st time you are going to be meeting this person. Think about it, if it doesn't work out and you realize quickly that this person is a total creeper, do you REALLY want them to know where you live?? My point exactly.
Conversation, now this one can get a little tricky. Ladies, not to put down guys on this one, but there is a good chance they aren't going to retain that much information that you tell them about yourself. They are going to walk away saying either "that chick is cool" or "next". There are little things that you can pop into your conversation that will get the guys attention, keep him interested. It's the same concept as showing a baby a mirror image of themselves. Throw out names of generic things that most guys like. For example, when talking about movies try to throw out something like Shawshank Redemption, Field of Dreams.. instead of The Notebook or Grease. If this date flourishes into a relationship or even just to a second date, the guy won't remember what was said that 1st date, only that he had something in common with you. Major note: 1st dates are no place for talking about super deep stuff! ever! No mentioning past relationships, no religion, and definately.. and repeat definately no talking about your jail record! Do you WANT to scare your date off?? Just leave it causal.. breezy.. and laid back please.
Escape routes. There is a good chance that you won't ever have to use it, but be prepared just in case, especially you ladies. They can be as small as writing down who you are meeting and where at what time to having your aunt call you screaming into the phone "EMERGENCY EMERGENCY!! ESCAPE NOW!" (make sure the volume is down on your phone should you choose that one, trust me). I always opt for the, "tell someone where you are going and with who". That way they know where you are and about how long it should take and if you are any longer.. they will be concerned.
Paying, this really should not have to be said, the guy should pay for the 1st date, at the very least. EVEN if he has to pay in coupons(true story). To ensure that this happens you can do one of 2 things, excuse yourself to poweder your nose before the check comes or be busy when it does arrive. If the check sits there and it becomes obvious that he is expecting this ticket to go Dutch.. pull out your money and pay for your half and get out of there fast.
Did I miss anything? Anything you wished I would talk about? Drop me a message and I will see what I can do!
Happy Valentines Day and happy dating!
Thursday, February 3, 2011
How to: Jumping into the big scary world of internet dating Part 1
First off, internet dating is not nearly as scary as you would think. There are a a BUNCH of different sites out there, the ones you pay for, the ones that are free that ANYONE can get on, and then there are the ones that appeal to your different lifestyles such as religion, ethnicity's, if you want to be a gold digger or a military spouse. Your first task is to find the one that works best for you.
I looked into the paying sites before, some of the familiar ones like Match.com. There was even one that I had to go OUT of my house and into a building, sit down and talk to a person about why I was single and the different options I had out there. I left there not feeling THAT great about myself, there had to be another way. The paying sites can get a little pricey and don't always guarantee great results. True, you can meet people on there, but the paying sites will have just as many creepers on it as the free sites will.
So whichever site you choose there are little tips that you need to know when choosing to message/ respond to that lucky someone. (You might also use these tips in making your own profile)
Pictures:
The 1st thing I look for in some one's profile is their pictures, call this superficial if you want. But seriously... how many times have you checked a guy/girl out because they had a hot sense of humor or a really jiggly bubbly intelligence? Exactly
I initially look over the pictures to see if there is that initial cuteness that I am attracted to. Then I look for, the red flag pictures that are a deal breaker, what I call the SOBBED pictures, because you will have done this WHEN the relationship ends, IF it even begins.
Self
Opposite Sex
Blurry
Baby
Exhibitionist
Distance
Self, do not and mean DO NOT talk to the person who has nothing but pictures that they took of themselves on there. One or two is ok, but not all of them. This says that the person doesn't have any friends to take pictures of them, or they never go out and therefor pictures never get taken. They are the ones that sit at home, alone, day in and day out. Anti-social and most likely will become clingy and with in a month will be leaving a toothbrush, change of clothes, movies, hair gel, and will be trying to spout out the L word.... for an example.
Opposite sex. While it is more than ok for that soon to be special someone to have friends of the opposite sex, it is NOT ok for them to have those friends in their profile, especially if it is devastatingly obvious that the girl is from a past relationship. This screams that they are newly single and have not gone out with their friends since the break up.
Blurry. Well this really should speak for itself. If the person you are checking out has a lot of blurry pictures, this means that they are ashamed of how they look, or are trying to deceive you by making you think that the image you see when you squint your eyes and tilt your head to the right is the person that you will be talking to. Guess what? You are wrong! He is actually 3 inches shorter, 20 lbs heavier, and has ears that you will swear could make him take flight.
Baby. While there is nothing at all wrong with having a baby or talking to someone who has a bundle of joy.. shamelessly using a picture of said baby is the same as a guy buying a dog SOLELY to pick up chicks. They may be great a parent and great with kids but that is something that needs to come out in words, not in the exploitation of your child.
Exhibitionist. These are the people who post pictures of themselves without a shirt on... or have their shirt pulled up enough to where you can see their killer abs and maybe a hint at their happy trail. These are the profiles that are straight up telling you that they are looking for one thing and one thing only, sex. Now if this is what you are looking for.. message away, just know what you are getting into. They will be VERY forward, suggest hooking up, going out for drinks, or that they just want someone to cuddle with for the night (note: cuddle does NOT mean cuddle!)
Distance. This one kind of goes hand in hand with the Blurry one. If the person of interest has pictures of himself from a distance, so far that you can barely make out a face, there is a good chance that they are trying to hide or mask a feature that they are not proud of (INSECURITY CITY!) This also applies to pictures which only show large groups, this way they can be anyone in the group. The broad shouldered/ long luscious legged one on the right or the one covered in moles on the left... good luck to you if you choose to take that chance!
This should be enough to get you started in the online world, more to come later!
Happy dating!
I looked into the paying sites before, some of the familiar ones like Match.com. There was even one that I had to go OUT of my house and into a building, sit down and talk to a person about why I was single and the different options I had out there. I left there not feeling THAT great about myself, there had to be another way. The paying sites can get a little pricey and don't always guarantee great results. True, you can meet people on there, but the paying sites will have just as many creepers on it as the free sites will.
So whichever site you choose there are little tips that you need to know when choosing to message/ respond to that lucky someone. (You might also use these tips in making your own profile)
Pictures:
The 1st thing I look for in some one's profile is their pictures, call this superficial if you want. But seriously... how many times have you checked a guy/girl out because they had a hot sense of humor or a really jiggly bubbly intelligence? Exactly
I initially look over the pictures to see if there is that initial cuteness that I am attracted to. Then I look for, the red flag pictures that are a deal breaker, what I call the SOBBED pictures, because you will have done this WHEN the relationship ends, IF it even begins.
Self
Opposite Sex
Blurry
Baby
Exhibitionist
Distance
Self, do not and mean DO NOT talk to the person who has nothing but pictures that they took of themselves on there. One or two is ok, but not all of them. This says that the person doesn't have any friends to take pictures of them, or they never go out and therefor pictures never get taken. They are the ones that sit at home, alone, day in and day out. Anti-social and most likely will become clingy and with in a month will be leaving a toothbrush, change of clothes, movies, hair gel, and will be trying to spout out the L word.... for an example.
Opposite sex. While it is more than ok for that soon to be special someone to have friends of the opposite sex, it is NOT ok for them to have those friends in their profile, especially if it is devastatingly obvious that the girl is from a past relationship. This screams that they are newly single and have not gone out with their friends since the break up.
Blurry. Well this really should speak for itself. If the person you are checking out has a lot of blurry pictures, this means that they are ashamed of how they look, or are trying to deceive you by making you think that the image you see when you squint your eyes and tilt your head to the right is the person that you will be talking to. Guess what? You are wrong! He is actually 3 inches shorter, 20 lbs heavier, and has ears that you will swear could make him take flight.
Baby. While there is nothing at all wrong with having a baby or talking to someone who has a bundle of joy.. shamelessly using a picture of said baby is the same as a guy buying a dog SOLELY to pick up chicks. They may be great a parent and great with kids but that is something that needs to come out in words, not in the exploitation of your child.
Exhibitionist. These are the people who post pictures of themselves without a shirt on... or have their shirt pulled up enough to where you can see their killer abs and maybe a hint at their happy trail. These are the profiles that are straight up telling you that they are looking for one thing and one thing only, sex. Now if this is what you are looking for.. message away, just know what you are getting into. They will be VERY forward, suggest hooking up, going out for drinks, or that they just want someone to cuddle with for the night (note: cuddle does NOT mean cuddle!)
Distance. This one kind of goes hand in hand with the Blurry one. If the person of interest has pictures of himself from a distance, so far that you can barely make out a face, there is a good chance that they are trying to hide or mask a feature that they are not proud of (INSECURITY CITY!) This also applies to pictures which only show large groups, this way they can be anyone in the group. The broad shouldered/ long luscious legged one on the right or the one covered in moles on the left... good luck to you if you choose to take that chance!
This should be enough to get you started in the online world, more to come later!
Happy dating!
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Introductions
First off, I would not say that I am a successful dater, but an experienced one. I have tried A LOT of options to find that someone.
There was the bar scene, church scene, on-line scene, mutual friends scene, and my parents favorite, giving my number to cute waiters or sales reps that they happen to stumble across who THEY thought were cute and single.
The purpose of this blog is to share my wisdom with those in the dating field. The in's and out's of dating, how to hook them, how to lose them, and how to see through their bull shit.
I am available to answer questions, either about your concerns or about my own dating history.
Stay tuned and bring it on!
There was the bar scene, church scene, on-line scene, mutual friends scene, and my parents favorite, giving my number to cute waiters or sales reps that they happen to stumble across who THEY thought were cute and single.
The purpose of this blog is to share my wisdom with those in the dating field. The in's and out's of dating, how to hook them, how to lose them, and how to see through their bull shit.
I am available to answer questions, either about your concerns or about my own dating history.
Stay tuned and bring it on!
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