First off, internet dating is not nearly as scary as you would think. There are a a BUNCH of different sites out there, the ones you pay for, the ones that are free that ANYONE can get on, and then there are the ones that appeal to your different lifestyles such as religion, ethnicity's, if you want to be a gold digger or a military spouse. Your first task is to find the one that works best for you.
I looked into the paying sites before, some of the familiar ones like Match.com. There was even one that I had to go OUT of my house and into a building, sit down and talk to a person about why I was single and the different options I had out there. I left there not feeling THAT great about myself, there had to be another way. The paying sites can get a little pricey and don't always guarantee great results. True, you can meet people on there, but the paying sites will have just as many creepers on it as the free sites will.
So whichever site you choose there are little tips that you need to know when choosing to message/ respond to that lucky someone. (You might also use these tips in making your own profile)
Pictures:
The 1st thing I look for in some one's profile is their pictures, call this superficial if you want. But seriously... how many times have you checked a guy/girl out because they had a hot sense of humor or a really jiggly bubbly intelligence? Exactly
I initially look over the pictures to see if there is that initial cuteness that I am attracted to. Then I look for, the red flag pictures that are a deal breaker, what I call the SOBBED pictures, because you will have done this WHEN the relationship ends, IF it even begins.
Self
Opposite Sex
Blurry
Baby
Exhibitionist
Distance
Self, do not and mean DO NOT talk to the person who has nothing but pictures that they took of themselves on there. One or two is ok, but not all of them. This says that the person doesn't have any friends to take pictures of them, or they never go out and therefor pictures never get taken. They are the ones that sit at home, alone, day in and day out. Anti-social and most likely will become clingy and with in a month will be leaving a toothbrush, change of clothes, movies, hair gel, and will be trying to spout out the L word.... for an example.
Opposite sex. While it is more than ok for that soon to be special someone to have friends of the opposite sex, it is NOT ok for them to have those friends in their profile, especially if it is devastatingly obvious that the girl is from a past relationship. This screams that they are newly single and have not gone out with their friends since the break up.
Blurry. Well this really should speak for itself. If the person you are checking out has a lot of blurry pictures, this means that they are ashamed of how they look, or are trying to deceive you by making you think that the image you see when you squint your eyes and tilt your head to the right is the person that you will be talking to. Guess what? You are wrong! He is actually 3 inches shorter, 20 lbs heavier, and has ears that you will swear could make him take flight.
Baby. While there is nothing at all wrong with having a baby or talking to someone who has a bundle of joy.. shamelessly using a picture of said baby is the same as a guy buying a dog SOLELY to pick up chicks. They may be great a parent and great with kids but that is something that needs to come out in words, not in the exploitation of your child.
Exhibitionist. These are the people who post pictures of themselves without a shirt on... or have their shirt pulled up enough to where you can see their killer abs and maybe a hint at their happy trail. These are the profiles that are straight up telling you that they are looking for one thing and one thing only, sex. Now if this is what you are looking for.. message away, just know what you are getting into. They will be VERY forward, suggest hooking up, going out for drinks, or that they just want someone to cuddle with for the night (note: cuddle does NOT mean cuddle!)
Distance. This one kind of goes hand in hand with the Blurry one. If the person of interest has pictures of himself from a distance, so far that you can barely make out a face, there is a good chance that they are trying to hide or mask a feature that they are not proud of (INSECURITY CITY!) This also applies to pictures which only show large groups, this way they can be anyone in the group. The broad shouldered/ long luscious legged one on the right or the one covered in moles on the left... good luck to you if you choose to take that chance!
This should be enough to get you started in the online world, more to come later!
Happy dating!
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