Going on a 1st date can always be a little nerve racking. Your mind is plagued with tons of ideas that will make you want to turn around and run right back home in bed, like, "What if he thinks I am ugly? What if I think he is ugly? What if I have nothing to say? What if he is totally boring? When the dates over is he going to go in for a kiss or hug? Did I brush my teeth? Is my deoderant working? How do I get out of this if he is a total creeper?!?"
Well just breathe! And remember... 1st dates are a lot like approaching a wild animal... there is a good chance that they are just as scared of you as you are of them.
Just keep in mind, that the other person has already said yes to you, so all you need to do is have a good time, relax... not TOO much, but if you show that you are relaxed then the other person will relax and you can bypass the awkward questions like "Soooo... nice weather today.. huh?" No one likes those, and no one really cares if YOU think it is nice weather, it's just the next best alternative to sitting in silence with this person that you dont know.
When choosing where to have this date, people will say "Don't go for food, just stick to coffee or drinks, you have an easy out!" But I tell you, go for the meal. (and this part is aimed mainly towards the ladies) If nothing else.. you will be getting a free meal! Eating during a date also gives you something to do other than stare off into the distance and wonder why this guy is REALLY talking about comic books on a date.
Outfits! What to wear what to wear? 1st off, guys, don't go sloppy. Please no wife beaters or shirts with stains on them. I know the whole "I don't care" attitude can be cool... but out of respect... dress up some for the girls you are trying to impress and have them take you seriously. Girls same for you, you want to look cute but not TOO cute. Basically, they aren't going to want to buy the farm if they can get the milk for free. DO choose an outfit that will inhance your favorite body part.. whether that be a tight pair of jeans, non hooker skirt, mild low cut top.. whatevs. We are all visual people, we want to see someone who is viually stimulating in all the good ways.
Arriving: On 1st dates it is usually a good idea to meet the date in a public setting, especially if this is the 1st time you are going to be meeting this person. Think about it, if it doesn't work out and you realize quickly that this person is a total creeper, do you REALLY want them to know where you live?? My point exactly.
Conversation, now this one can get a little tricky. Ladies, not to put down guys on this one, but there is a good chance they aren't going to retain that much information that you tell them about yourself. They are going to walk away saying either "that chick is cool" or "next". There are little things that you can pop into your conversation that will get the guys attention, keep him interested. It's the same concept as showing a baby a mirror image of themselves. Throw out names of generic things that most guys like. For example, when talking about movies try to throw out something like Shawshank Redemption, Field of Dreams.. instead of The Notebook or Grease. If this date flourishes into a relationship or even just to a second date, the guy won't remember what was said that 1st date, only that he had something in common with you. Major note: 1st dates are no place for talking about super deep stuff! ever! No mentioning past relationships, no religion, and definately.. and repeat definately no talking about your jail record! Do you WANT to scare your date off?? Just leave it causal.. breezy.. and laid back please.
Escape routes. There is a good chance that you won't ever have to use it, but be prepared just in case, especially you ladies. They can be as small as writing down who you are meeting and where at what time to having your aunt call you screaming into the phone "EMERGENCY EMERGENCY!! ESCAPE NOW!" (make sure the volume is down on your phone should you choose that one, trust me). I always opt for the, "tell someone where you are going and with who". That way they know where you are and about how long it should take and if you are any longer.. they will be concerned.
Paying, this really should not have to be said, the guy should pay for the 1st date, at the very least. EVEN if he has to pay in coupons(true story). To ensure that this happens you can do one of 2 things, excuse yourself to poweder your nose before the check comes or be busy when it does arrive. If the check sits there and it becomes obvious that he is expecting this ticket to go Dutch.. pull out your money and pay for your half and get out of there fast.
Did I miss anything? Anything you wished I would talk about? Drop me a message and I will see what I can do!
Happy Valentines Day and happy dating!
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